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Friday, September 30, 2011

Should we Divorce?

Nice Story....


Very inspiring...try to read this up to the last paragraph..

To all married couples and singles who intend to get married...

(Story based on a Men story....)


When I got home that nigt as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, "I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quitely...


Again I observed the hurt in her eyes..Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?.. I avoided her question. This made her angry... She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!.. That night we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But i could hardly give her a satisfactory answer, she had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I didn't love her anymore...I just pitied her!...


With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore iti into pieces. The women who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of realse. The idea of divorce which had obsesses me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a months time and she didn't want to distrupt him with our broken marriage.


This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had caried her into out bridal room on our weeding day. SHe requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door every morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.


I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.


My wife and I hadn't any body contact since my divorce intention was explicity expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten metres with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.


On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I didn't looked at this women carefully for a long time. I realised she was not young anymore. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its tool on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.


On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dressesbut could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she ahd grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me. She had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.


Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly, it was just like our wedding day.


But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.


I drove to officeee...jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid and delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstirs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.


She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew. I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realised that since I carried her into my home on our weeding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.


At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.


The small details of our lives are what really matter in a realtionship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank, blah..blah..blah. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage.


Some things that husband should aware:

1. His wife is the gerat gifts that God gives to him.

2. If u feel very far with ur wife, try to find out the reason why its happen? then stepby step solve the problems.

3. If u fallen love with somebody else, remember that ur wife still waitin for u. don't hurt her...coz she already doing many things for u...

4. God craete one women to every man in this world. so dont ever think that u can have 2,3,4 or more than that...


Happy readinggg.......




Sunday, August 7, 2011

Kecewa



Sesungguhnya kekecewaan yang disebabkan oleh diri sendiri itu adalah lebih baik dari kita mengecewakan seseorang.....

Teruskan perjuangan yang belum selesai sehingga ke titik akhirnya..

Jangan biarkan engkau terus dibayangi oleh kenangan-kenangan masa silam..

Chow dulu....





Saturday, August 6, 2011

Weekend

Selamat pagi semua..sepatutnya aku ke kk untuk appoinment hari ini tetapi aku batalkan memandangkan kenderaanku yang belum kubaiki lagi...jadi aku cuma berehat dirumah sahaja...mungkin pada minggu hadapan baru aku akan ke kk...dan sepatutnya minggu hadapan, aku fly ke kl untuk sesi pendaftaran master..tetapi memikirkan bahawa aku nak fokus pada bizz dulu aku batalkan hasratku itu...biarlah aku buat satu persatu..kalau tak nanti usaha aku tak akan sampai kemana...uplineku sering menasihakan aku agar FOKUS....dan itulah yang aku lakukan sekarang...


Kekadang...datang juga rasa putus asa dalam hati kerana gagal untuk influence orang...tetapi aku sering kali mendapatkan semangat dengan membaca entri blog upline-uplineku yang telah berjaya..bagiku..merekalah mentor-mentor hebat yang sentiasa membimbing aku bila aku perlu dibimbing...


Apa yang hebat dengan bisnes ini?

Bisnes MLM yang pertama kali aku join....

Dulu waktu aku diperkenalkan oleh Kak Ash mengenai bisnes ini aku mengambil masa hampir 5 bulan untuk memikirkan mengenai bisnes ini..Aku tak ambil keputusan mendadak..Mungkin itu jugalah yang difikirkan oleh orang-orang yang aku jumpa..may be..aku cuma follow up mereka...agar mereka juga akan turut sama dalam perniagaan yang hebat ini.


AT 181...

Akademi ini ditubuhkan oleh CDM Kartini dan suami dan kini.. akademi ini teah mengeluarkan hampir ratusan graduan yang berjaya dalam bidang perniagaan...Aku antara pelajar yang masih belajar di akademi ini..Masih lagi mencari-cari titik kejayaan sama seperti mereka.....


Kenapa aku nak buat?

Bukan kerana aku gila duit..

Tetapi aku nak langsaikan Personal Loan dengan Hutang PTPTN ku yang masih bertimbun...
Aku nak bagi hadiah kepada kedua orang tuaku..

Aku nak bagi rumah..tanah...

Aku nak bagi peluang pada adik-adik ku untuk menikmati hidup yang lebih baikk..


Dulu..aku hidup susah...

untuk bayar yuran sekolah...ibu dan ayah pagi-pagi dah bangun..ke kebun untuk menoreh..

kalau cuti..aku juga turut serta..selain dari itu..ibu dan ayah bercucuk tanam untuk menapung kehidupan kami sekeluarga...

Tanam padi...sayur..then kalau ada lebihan jual kat Tamu..selalu kat Tamu Tenghilan..

Kalau musim buah..aku jual buah kat guru-guru atau rakan-rakan sekelas..

Kalau durian..dapatlah RM5.00 sebiji...kadang-kadang beg aku rosak sebab bawa durian dalam beg...Lepas balik dari sekolah..aku jahit beg itu..kadang-kadang mak yang jahit....

Musim buah Belunu...aku jaul belunu RM 0.20 sebiji..

dapatlah aku merasa makan makanan kat kantin sekolah..


Dulu Mak bagi duit 20 sen..paling banyak 50 sen...ayah kata..x baik budak-budak pegang duit banyak-banyak kesekolah....kadang-kadang aku masak bekal untuk diri kusendiri....lagi jimat....


Perjalanan ke sekolah mengambil masa hampir sejam..Jalan kaki jer...Taklah jauh sangat..cuma 5 km jer....tapi sebab dah biasa..jadi tidak masalah bagi diriku...


Mengingat kembali kenangan-kenangan tersebut..aku tersedar...rupa-rupanya..aku nie telah diasuh untuk menjadi tabah oleh mak dan ayah sejak dari kecill..telah diasuh untuk berdikari sejak dari kecil...dan aku juga telah didisiplinkan oleh ayah aku sejak aku kecil....aku bersyukur...dan aku cukup beruntung kerana dijadikan seperti ini..mungkin kalau aku dilahirkan senang..aku tak akan menjadi setabh seperti sekarang..


Aku sering berpesan dengan diriku sendiri..kalau dulu aku boleh hadapi semua cabarna tersebut dengan senyuman..kenapa tidak sekarang....Aku tahu aku boleh berjaya dalam bisness yang aku join ini asal aku berkeinginan untuk berjaya..asalkan aku berusaha sedaya-upaya aku..


Wahai rakan-rakan ku diluar sana...yang masih hidup dalam zon yang selesa...untuk menjadi senang memang bukan senang...tetapi kalau dibuat betul-betul..tidak susah untuk menjadi senang...

Harus ada ketabahan dalam hati..

harus ada kesabaran dalam hati...

Follow bisness ini kerana hidup kita bukan hanya untuk makan gaji..tetapi banyak lagi yang kita boleh lakukan seandainya kita buat sesuatu yang orang tidak buat...


Sekian untuk hari ini...

Jumpa anda di Puncak Kejayaaann...choww....


Monday, August 1, 2011

Kelab Jutawan

Bukan senang untuk menjadi senang..bukan susah untuk menjadi susah...

Belum cuba belum tahu..


Cabaran

Penat sungguh semalam...aku jalan awal dari kampung dengan niat untuk jumpa dgn kawan2..share-share knowledge.....share-share pasal peluang bisnes yang boleh di buat..Sewaktu sampai di Tuaran, kereta tiba-tiba macam jem..nak jalan pun susah...Nasib baik my Cousin yang kerja di UMW tu cuti..then minta tolong dengan dia...dia tinggal kat area 1B..aku risau kot-kot tengah2 jalan keta aku tu tetiba melompat ke....meletup ke......tetapi aku beranikan diri untuk driving.....hampair2 tak sampai kat rumah my cousin tapi nasib baik last-last boleh sampai juga....Sesampai kat rumah cousin....dia kata break jem.....check punya check punya check...break aku tinggal nak meletup lagi...alahai...dah lah hari minggu....banyak kedai yang dah tutup..nasib baik ada keta yang boleh dibawa untuk mencari part2 yang perlu ditukar....cari kedai tu masalah lagi....pusing sana..tutup sudah..pusing sini..pun tutup sudah...alahai...aku rasa macam nak bomm jer kedai-kedai tu...dipendekkan cerita...keta ok menjelang pukul 6 petang.....dan aku perlu bergegas untuk balik keningau...dan tak jadilah aku berdemo lagi..sekarang ni aku tengah down..tak tau nak start balik macam mana...


tapi aku percaya..setiap yang terjadi pasti ada hikmahnya..mungkin semalam aku tak sempat jumpa orang..mungkin esok lusa...ada pula orang yang akan cari aku...betullah cakap orang..mana ada dalam dunia ni yang senang nak dapat..berak pun kena cari tandas..makan kena cari kedai atau masak dulu....bak kata orang..orang gila pun susah nak hidup..


apapun..aku kena teruskan juga bizz aku ini..selagi aku tak buat...aku makin jauh untuk berjaya..aku makin lama untuk capai apa yang aku mau..aku tidak akan pernah berjaya....


sesiapa yang nak share pengalaman bizz dengan aku..call or sms...013-6289690/019-6129690...

Thursday, May 5, 2011

Mari kita mencapai Kewangan Mandiri

Kawan-kawanku
marilah kita mencapai kewangan mandiri dalam kehidupan kita
agar kita boelh menikmati kepuasan dalam kehidupan kita
agar kita boleh memperuntukkan sedikit daripada kesenangan kita kepada yang memerlukan..
dan agar kita boleh hidup bukan kerana untuk bekerja..

apakah maksud kewangan mandiri
maksudnya apabila pendapatn kita melebihi daripada perbelanjaan kita

seperti contoh dibawah

Gaji bersih RM 2000.00

potong untuk bayar rmh katakan RM200 tinggal 1800
potong untuk bayar broadband RM70 tinggal RM1730
potong untuk bayar bil telefon tinggal RM100 tinggal RM1630
potong untuk bagi dengan mak ayah katakan RM500 tinggal RM1130
potong untuk bayar kereta katakan RM400 tinggal RM 730
potong untuk minyak setiap bulan RM200 tinggal RM530
potong untuk bayar parking katakn RM100 tinggal RM430
potong untuk bayar personal loan katakan RM300 tinggal RM130
potong untuk makan dan minum sebualan RM300 jadi -270..

dimana wang untuk disimpan buat masa hadapan?
dimana wang untuk bayar PTPTN..
kalau dah kahwen mana wang untuk anak-anak...'

jika ingin mendapatkan jawapan marilah kita belajar di AKademi terunggul di Malaysia
Akademi Taipan 181..

Sunday, April 24, 2011

The new of me

Aku dah lama buka blog ni..tapi kerana aku tak ada masa so aku tak pernah update pun blog aku ynag cute dan comel ini..seingat aku..last aku update blog ni tahun lepas..bulan 3 ke empat..dan setelah aku teliti dan baca balik coretan-coretan didalam blog aku ini baru aku sedar yang semuanya melalut dan tak ada maknanya..but never mind...lepas ni i will use this blog untuk sharing with others about passion in life.....my life and any good story that might be ca inspired others....